A age gap dating advice blog that provides valuable tips when dating older men and younger women. Thought-provoking relationship tips for older men seeking to date younger women. Please be advised to seek a professional for serious issues. Contributors are not all licensed or trained in relationship counseling. This blog is not for people under the age of 18.
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How Does the Young Woman End Up with an Older Man a Lot Like Dad?
I never planned to date any men who acted like my dad, but yet I found myself in so many ways being attracted to older men who had some or as many of my dad's traits that I could find. I realize now there were "triggers," things I might have liked, wished, or didn't like about my own father, but I didn't know this at the time. On the surface, I could care less about dad's appearance, personal interests, etc. yet someone within me, cared a whole lot!
When the need to want to be close to dad was there, it showed up in the mates I agreed to date. I didn't seek out these men, they came to me which was quite bizarre just how much they reminded me of my dad. So for me, if there is something that I like or I found missing in my life related to my father, I tended to gravitate to it. However, as I mature, I am recognizing this and finding more healthier ways to cope since the truth is, I have no desire in the future to date any more men especially with a large age gap--five years tops! I am married now and I see my dad in some ways.
1. Skin Tone
It all started with skin tone, I personally like my own father's color, so if a guy was similar to his shade, I would be more open to talk to him then someone with a darker skin tone.
2. Occupation and Hobbies
If the man had a background that was close to my dad's like a white collar job, military service, and hobbies that reminded me of him, he also got the VIP treatment. (Mind you, at the time, I didn't knowing that my criteria in meeting someone was based on my dad's lifestyle).
3. Age
I realized that most men who are older are more settled. I didn't experience any hurt growing up such as, a father who ran the streets like a young man, partied, concerned about "his boys" or acted wild. Yet, my experience with younger, unsettled men was just that. They were often uncaring and wasted money. My dad and other older men I knew didn't do this, so the age gap was a plus for me. However, I had a strict upbringing, so I felt comfortable with controlling types which caused me much heartache with one older man.
4. Travel
What was strange was I really wanted men who got out and explored their local areas and elsewhere, yet I kept giving many dates the pass on this who didn't get out much! I would eventually get frustrated with these men. When I reflected back, my dad didn't leave the home to do recreational activities or vacation much either.
5. Communication
I found that when I talked with my dates, I often over did it and I wondered why. I felt like sharing so much of myself with these men. The truth was that at home with my own father, we rarely talked and he spent much time on off days staring at a television screen. So of course, where did I find I had most of my conversations with these dates? Seated next to them while they watched TV with no eye contact. They didn't seem to care too much about what I said, just like my dad.
If you should find that there is much going on with a date that is somehow connected with father blues or daddy issues, know that the young lady really can't help herself. Her dad dropped the ball. She still has more maturing to do so that she can find someone who she likes that doesn't consciously or subsconsciously remind her of her dad. This comes with being exposed to men at work, school, church, and elsewhere. She doesn't have to date much, but she will need to establish friendships in an effort to learn what she likes or doesn't like in men while breaking the wish for having a relationship with her father. Sometimes talking with dad about issues helps quell some childhood woes too. Also, a simple hug can do wonders. But what I will not advise is taking advantage of the wish for daddy's communication, affection and more, becoming like a dad to her. That relationship will soon fizzle especially when she begins to bond with her dad.
As for the young lady, continue to learn more about yourself and your needs and when you recognize you are choosing a mate based on what you did or didn't have with a dad, think deeply and be sure it is a healthy connection.
Nicholl McGuire
When the need to want to be close to dad was there, it showed up in the mates I agreed to date. I didn't seek out these men, they came to me which was quite bizarre just how much they reminded me of my dad. So for me, if there is something that I like or I found missing in my life related to my father, I tended to gravitate to it. However, as I mature, I am recognizing this and finding more healthier ways to cope since the truth is, I have no desire in the future to date any more men especially with a large age gap--five years tops! I am married now and I see my dad in some ways.
1. Skin Tone
It all started with skin tone, I personally like my own father's color, so if a guy was similar to his shade, I would be more open to talk to him then someone with a darker skin tone.
2. Occupation and Hobbies
If the man had a background that was close to my dad's like a white collar job, military service, and hobbies that reminded me of him, he also got the VIP treatment. (Mind you, at the time, I didn't knowing that my criteria in meeting someone was based on my dad's lifestyle).
3. Age
I realized that most men who are older are more settled. I didn't experience any hurt growing up such as, a father who ran the streets like a young man, partied, concerned about "his boys" or acted wild. Yet, my experience with younger, unsettled men was just that. They were often uncaring and wasted money. My dad and other older men I knew didn't do this, so the age gap was a plus for me. However, I had a strict upbringing, so I felt comfortable with controlling types which caused me much heartache with one older man.
4. Travel
What was strange was I really wanted men who got out and explored their local areas and elsewhere, yet I kept giving many dates the pass on this who didn't get out much! I would eventually get frustrated with these men. When I reflected back, my dad didn't leave the home to do recreational activities or vacation much either.
5. Communication
I found that when I talked with my dates, I often over did it and I wondered why. I felt like sharing so much of myself with these men. The truth was that at home with my own father, we rarely talked and he spent much time on off days staring at a television screen. So of course, where did I find I had most of my conversations with these dates? Seated next to them while they watched TV with no eye contact. They didn't seem to care too much about what I said, just like my dad.
If you should find that there is much going on with a date that is somehow connected with father blues or daddy issues, know that the young lady really can't help herself. Her dad dropped the ball. She still has more maturing to do so that she can find someone who she likes that doesn't consciously or subsconsciously remind her of her dad. This comes with being exposed to men at work, school, church, and elsewhere. She doesn't have to date much, but she will need to establish friendships in an effort to learn what she likes or doesn't like in men while breaking the wish for having a relationship with her father. Sometimes talking with dad about issues helps quell some childhood woes too. Also, a simple hug can do wonders. But what I will not advise is taking advantage of the wish for daddy's communication, affection and more, becoming like a dad to her. That relationship will soon fizzle especially when she begins to bond with her dad.
As for the young lady, continue to learn more about yourself and your needs and when you recognize you are choosing a mate based on what you did or didn't have with a dad, think deeply and be sure it is a healthy connection.
Nicholl McGuire
Friday
Still Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Still Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate - The Victi...: "Still here. So unsure. He blames me for his sins, takes everything personally, abandons instead of deals with martial issues (we have...
Monday
Beaten with Fists, Broken with Silent Treatment
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Beaten with Fists, Broken with Silent Treatment: She is the ideal candidate for the controlling man. Formerly abused, the survivor has potential to the man who doesn't have to lift a f...
Wednesday
The Funny Thing about Being with an Older Guy Is...
Nothing! The jokes on you today. Scroll this blog and be enlightened when it comes to older guys dating younger women and vice versa. Thank you much to our supporters!
Saturday
The Wider the Age Gap, The More Things to Consider
Love, friendship, compatible interests, similar goals, money, mental and financial stability, you name it and singles want it all. Some get lucky and others not so much in meeting a partner. Age gap dating is really not that different than dating someone your own age or close to it, but there are some differences.
This issue of age not meaning much only applies if the ages between the younger and older aren't extremely wide. But age is significant when a man is old enough to be the young woman's father twice! These people who love to talk about how age is nothing but a number haven't experienced many relationship differences, but for those who have and see the truth for what it is: He's really too old and she's really too young! So what makes this so?
1. Very little in common spiritually, mentally and physically. Frequent disputes, immaturity and/or substance, emotional or physical abuse.
2. Too little or too much money and an unwillingness to help with basic needs.
3. Worries over things like: gold-digging, family woes with the partner, and jealousy.
4. Employment and education focus -- too many long hours, not enough time spent together.
5. Health concerns that affect sex.
6. Unresolved issues with finances, former partner(s), business etc.
Whether you are the lucky older guy or gal who has landed a great companion or the one struggling in a May December relationship, there are some things to think about when dating older. This blog has many topics that range from age gap dating to dealing with mid-life challenges.
Media reports have shared studies where couples had a hard time staying together when the age gap in a relationship is very wide. The older guy isn't getting any younger and the young woman will not always stay young. So as the pair matures, needs change. What was good five or 10 years ago, isn't anymore. The internal issues of wanting more out of life rather than settling will be there for the young woman who feels the older gentleman didn't make good on his promises or isn't what she had in mind for a partner. The mature man will have his issues with mental and physical compatibility now that he is getting older. These are the facts and as much as some would like to blame everything but age, it is what it is.
Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.
This issue of age not meaning much only applies if the ages between the younger and older aren't extremely wide. But age is significant when a man is old enough to be the young woman's father twice! These people who love to talk about how age is nothing but a number haven't experienced many relationship differences, but for those who have and see the truth for what it is: He's really too old and she's really too young! So what makes this so?
1. Very little in common spiritually, mentally and physically. Frequent disputes, immaturity and/or substance, emotional or physical abuse.
2. Too little or too much money and an unwillingness to help with basic needs.
3. Worries over things like: gold-digging, family woes with the partner, and jealousy.
4. Employment and education focus -- too many long hours, not enough time spent together.
5. Health concerns that affect sex.
6. Unresolved issues with finances, former partner(s), business etc.
Whether you are the lucky older guy or gal who has landed a great companion or the one struggling in a May December relationship, there are some things to think about when dating older. This blog has many topics that range from age gap dating to dealing with mid-life challenges.
Media reports have shared studies where couples had a hard time staying together when the age gap in a relationship is very wide. The older guy isn't getting any younger and the young woman will not always stay young. So as the pair matures, needs change. What was good five or 10 years ago, isn't anymore. The internal issues of wanting more out of life rather than settling will be there for the young woman who feels the older gentleman didn't make good on his promises or isn't what she had in mind for a partner. The mature man will have his issues with mental and physical compatibility now that he is getting older. These are the facts and as much as some would like to blame everything but age, it is what it is.
Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.
Friday
No Acting Older Than You Are, Young Women are Watching
Older men, who feel the innate need to feel young again, have this personal issue that a young woman could care less about. As far as she is concerned she just wants to know that you are mentally, physically and financially stable. The last thing she wants to hear about is how forgetful you are getting, how you have an ache here or there, how broke you are, what you don't know, and how you can't get there from here. These are not the kind of things you want to share with a new date!
Older men that often complain about all sorts of things like bills, exes, adult sons and daughters, and long lines at the store are such a bore! Why bother dating young women? Some older men should simply stick to their own age group. These same grumbling men will drop hints about their lack (whether true or not) as well as have other ups and downs that exes already know about and young women will soon discover. The troubled older man would do better talking to their own age group about personal challenges or better yet, seeing a doctor.
Think about this, would any man want to hear a woman nag, cry or moan often about her woman problems? So why would an older man assume a young woman would want to hear about his mid-life woes? Now there are some women who have a heart for male mid-life issues, but others not so much especially those who have been on the fence about dating older men. You can easily turn young women off if you act older than what you are.
There is a fight to stay young if an older man should want to brave dating women with a significant age gap. A man has to have some degree of youth to keep the young woman liking, loving and respecting him. He doesn't have to act like a 20 plus year old, but he should exude the kind of confidence that says, "I enjoy life, having fun, and appreciate my companion."
Older men, who can't keep young women around, are the type who tend not to be happy with themselves much less anyone else. These men have no real desire to stay fit, live unsatisfactory lifestyles, and can't see beyond their personal challenges. It isn't any wonder why some will change partners like they do their undergarments--young women grow weary of grumblers.
It is safe to say that a young woman who sincerely wants a good relationship will stick it out with a man who doesn't make her feel miserable by frequently complaining and acting older than who he is. The last thing a young woman wants is to feel like her youth is quickly passing by because she is with an unhappy older man.
Nicholl McGuire
Older men that often complain about all sorts of things like bills, exes, adult sons and daughters, and long lines at the store are such a bore! Why bother dating young women? Some older men should simply stick to their own age group. These same grumbling men will drop hints about their lack (whether true or not) as well as have other ups and downs that exes already know about and young women will soon discover. The troubled older man would do better talking to their own age group about personal challenges or better yet, seeing a doctor.
Think about this, would any man want to hear a woman nag, cry or moan often about her woman problems? So why would an older man assume a young woman would want to hear about his mid-life woes? Now there are some women who have a heart for male mid-life issues, but others not so much especially those who have been on the fence about dating older men. You can easily turn young women off if you act older than what you are.
There is a fight to stay young if an older man should want to brave dating women with a significant age gap. A man has to have some degree of youth to keep the young woman liking, loving and respecting him. He doesn't have to act like a 20 plus year old, but he should exude the kind of confidence that says, "I enjoy life, having fun, and appreciate my companion."
Older men, who can't keep young women around, are the type who tend not to be happy with themselves much less anyone else. These men have no real desire to stay fit, live unsatisfactory lifestyles, and can't see beyond their personal challenges. It isn't any wonder why some will change partners like they do their undergarments--young women grow weary of grumblers.
It is safe to say that a young woman who sincerely wants a good relationship will stick it out with a man who doesn't make her feel miserable by frequently complaining and acting older than who he is. The last thing a young woman wants is to feel like her youth is quickly passing by because she is with an unhappy older man.
Nicholl McGuire
Saturday
Bobby Vee - Come Back When You Grow Up Girl
Sometimes it can be hard to say, "Sorry, you are just too young for me..." send a message to the young woman whose mind is simply too immature for you.
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