Tuesday

Younger Women Dating Older Men

It is a known fact that women, in general, are attracted to older men and will date men that are a few years older than themselves. If a woman is thirty, she'll probably date a man in his forties and so on. So what is it that draws women to these older guys?

Most women will admit that they want a strong man who can stand his own ground and be confident; and generally speaking, many women appreciate the maturity of an older man. It's no secret that the qualities that women are looking for in their future husbands are the same qualities that men slightly older than them display. Most women assume that older men are well trained at being a gentleman, are more civilized and more capable of providing for and supporting whoever they are with. They also feel older men have probably been married or at least have gone through a lot of different relationships, have learned how to treat a woman and how to give her what she wants and/or needs.

When it comes to dating younger men, many women feel that these guys still have a sense of immaturity about them and that they don't know what it means to really treat a woman. It's a well-known fact that women mature faster than men, and if a woman wants to date an older guy, it's probably because she's had her fill of the 23-year-old party animal who still believes he's invincible and can't even remember her name. Mature, younger women, who are no longer interested in dealing with the games and attitudes of younger guys appreciate an older man's life experiences and the fact that they're over many of the games they may have played in their younger years. Also, if a younger woman is ready to start a family, she feels older men might settle down sooner.

In the discussion of older men younger women dating, there are some women who will argue that older men only ask them out because they take longer to grow up and mature or only want a trophy girlfriend on their arm to boost their ego. Another argument to dating younger women is that older men miss out on meeting a mature, wise and appreciative woman their own age. While this may be true in some cases, in reality, most older men who date younger women do so because they feel that women younger than them have more energy, spontaneity and less dating baggage. They simply want to feel rejuvenated and youthful again and make their sex life more adventurous.

The real disadvantages to this type of relationship for an older man dating a younger woman is that there may be a difference in the energy levels between the two of them. The age difference can cause a big difference in interests such as music, social activities and morals. If an older man doesn't keep up with the younger woman or perhaps loses his financial stability and/or health, a gold digger might lose interest in him and leave him rather quickly.

Ultimately, older men dating younger women must be able to deal with the attitudes of others who stare, those who comment about the age difference, the negative attitudes of those who just disapprove, and the many other challenges they may be faced with. Older men younger women dating can be wonderful as long as both of you know what you are looking for and where you want to go with it before you get too involved.

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Monday

Five Signs He is a Good Guy But Boring

So you met yourself a nice guy who seems to be plenty of fun for now, but how do you know that his good time is nothing but a show? What if you discover later that this guy is nothing more than a grandpa type sitting back in his rocking chair snoozing? Here's what you need to do to determine if your future is going to be dead or alive with this nice guy.

1. Listen to him when he tells you what life was like for him before you came along.
Now most women want to hear from their new partner, "I was just going about my days watching TV and wishing for someone like you." However, that should actually be a turn off to you! Here's why. If he didn't have a life before you then he won't have much of a life with you either especially after the newness of your dating relationship wears off. If you are an active woman, you want an active man!

2. He is often looking to you to make plans on what to do for entertainment.
You may enjoy planning everything now, but what happens when money woes become an issue later and he expects you to not only plan the date, but pay for everything too? Looks like the two of you won't be getting out much.

3. Whenever you talk to him about going places, he finds fault with your suggestions. This will get old with anyone. No one likes to be rejected or criticized for every interest they like. This is not only a sign that you have someone who isn't much on trying new things, but he may also be the controlling type -- better start distancing yourself!

4. He can't enjoy life without you. This seems flattering in the beginning of the relationship, but as you become more comfortable with this person, you will want to do some things without him too. If he starts showing signs now of clingy behavior, imagine what that might be like if you commit to him for a life time!

5. His idea of a good time seems to always be staying home. This is a clear indication that you have a future couch potato boyfriend and an insecure one too! The relationship might work if you are just like him, but if you are not, woe to you! Don't settle with someone who is already panting on the first lap! "I'm too tired to go out...didn't we go out last weekend."

Now that you have five signs this guy may be a future bore for the active you, don't do anything stupid like marry him! There are nice, genuinely active guys out there who don't have to put on an act.

Nicholl McGuire has past experience dating older men and online dating. She penned a new book entitled, Laboring to Love Myself and she tweets @datingdramas on Twitter.

Tuesday

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When He Thinks You Are Dumb

The day will come when your intelligence will be tested young woman. He will come to you with a little bit of wisdom -- a question that just might leave you guessing. It's not that he is playing games with your head, at least not at this point, but he is trying to determine can you walk with him long term.

You see, young woman, no man wants a dumb blonde on his arm for a lifetime, so to those of you who are acting -- stop it! Let your intelligence show before its too late! Just like in school your teacher gives you a pop quiz to see if you were paying attention, the older man will do the same. Sometimes he doesn't know that is what he is doing until after he realizes he has been asking the kind of questions of you that will help him make a decision whether you are wife material.

The one major thing that separates the mature woman from the younger woman is life experience. The mature woman will underestimate the young woman because she falsely assumes that all are "babies, stupid, wet behind the ears, don't know any better, still young." However, the mature woman has a rude awakening when she realizes she is out of the running when a young woman steps up to the plate and shows her that she knows a thing or two about life too.

Part of stepping up to the plate is concentrating on your man. Studying him like you would a text book and knowing how to answer his questions when the time comes. Some of his questions may be about your interests, your hopes for the future, how you feel about him, where do you see yourself in five years with him (or without him) and how do you feel about his family. Depending on how serious you are in your commitment to him will determine how you answer his questions. If he is nothing more than a friend (someone you haven't slept with) then answer the questions selfishly, because you aren't interested in a future with him. But if you love this man and you can't eat, drink, or sleep without him, then be careful! You don't want to scare him off by preaching about me and not we.

Be smart young woman and you will go far! But act dumb and all you will be is nothing more than a toy for an older man!

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Laboring to Love Myself, Amazon.com http://laboringtoloveanabusivemate.blogspot.com

Wednesday

Younger Women Watch Out for Jealous Women in Mid-life

You chose to date your older man and you and he feel good about being together. However, there is one group of women who despise you! The older women going through a midlife crisis of their own!

You may have already noticed the negative attitude of these women. They roll their eyes, they say condescending comments like, "Aren't you cute? You are so young. Aww your still a baby! You are like a little sister to me." No matter how nice they say these little statements, these women are insecure with your youth and God bless you if you are beautiful because no matter what you do, some of these women will find fault with you!

There is something that arises in us when the presence of a beautiful woman or handsome man walks into a room. We may adjust our clothing, look at ourselves in the mirror just a little longer, add just a tadbit more make up, or toss our hair just a little bit more. Some of us just don't know how to behave around nice-looking people especially insecure women!

You are a light in that older man's eyes and you are also a dagger to those women in his family and those he has befriended who are insecure. Therefore, knowing this, be careful what you say to these women. Avoid talking about your man negatively to them. And most of all, when you are being disrespected by them, communicate that to your man. Some older men will not tolerate such foolishness, others will defend their family and friends or find excuses for them. The latter action is sad and unfortunately may make matters worse in your relationship. Both of you need to be in support of one another especially when their are jealous women in the midst.

It may be hard for him to realize his beloved sister or best friend is actually an un-supportive, jealous, insecure (you fill in the blank) and even if he doesn't believe it now, what is in darkness will come to light! If you believe in a greater power do the following: pray about your relationship, how you deal with matters as they arise, and believe that God will make your enemies your footstool!

Be encouraged!

Nicholl McGuire is the creator of this blog and the author of Laboring to Love Myself and Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate located at Amazon.com.

Younger Women Dating Older Men - Why May-December Relationships Are Doing So Well These Days

Women in their 20s are becoming very frustrated these days about the current dating scene and there are many reasons for this. One reason is men in their 20s have become very immature compared to how they used to be 20 to 50 years ago. Back then, men were not only more romantic but also concentrated their efforts on courting one woman. For instance, the men used to walk up to a woman's doorstep with a nice bouquet of roses in one hand and chocolates and the other. Don't get me wrong, I'm not focusing on material gifts here, but more so on the effort that man used to give when they were interested in a woman. These days young men just skip the roses and focus all of their efforts into trying to get women in bed. They don't want a relationship, and all they care for is to try to get as much short-term pleasure out of these dates as possible. In other words, men in this age group have become very shallow and self-serving.

Younger women dating older men find that these men are much more mature than the younger guys and know how to treat a lady right. Right off the bat older men are much more caring and communicative on the date. They will start by asking a woman to tell them anything about herself. They want to know what her goals and dreams are, and they will be attentive enough to try to help in any way they can. If you ask any young woman, they will say that communication is the key to keeping a relationship strong. Older men understand this also because they have already been through their immature and selfish years and truly understand how special a monogamous relationship really is.

In a May-December relationship the older man not only can keep up with the younger women in bed, but can also hold his own as far as doing the chores around the house, paying bills and taking care of children. Not only are these kinds of relationships on the rise, but they will be here to stay for a long time.

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Friday

Barely Legal - Older Guys Dating Teenagers?

Are you an NBA fan? If you watched the playoffs, then no doubt you saw the T-Mobile commercial where Charles Barkley is constantly calling D-Wade. Hilarious stuff, particularly when Chuck inanely spouts, "That's why I don'teat shrimp."

Well, despite all the marketing hype in the Seduction Community about pulling the youngest hotties possible (especially if you're an older guy), that's pretty much how I feel about dating eighteen or nineteen year old girls, even if they are "legal".

And for those of you who might be assuming that this is all a function of my current age, I've pretty much viewed the universe this way since I was 21, with a few scattered exceptions

Not coincidentally, you see, at 21 years of age is when a guy in the United States (like me) can finally order a beer.

It's not that the younger girls aren't often really, really hot...you and I both know they are.

The deal is that they're unnecessary.

As I see it, I can find a woman who is at least 21 who looks every bit as intriguing as any 18 or 19 year old. And then, I can take her A-N-Y-W-H-E-R-E I want.

Otherwise, her restrictions become my restrictions. And I've been through with being relegated to "Teen Night" at the local club for over twenty years now.

Think of it...they are teenagers, after all.

They are barely through high school, let alone college. This means that there has not yet been any chance to cultivate the necessary level of independence and maturity that most older guys invariably demand.

Now if you're 30 and still living in your Mommy's basements, all bets are off. Disregard the previous statement.

But otherwise, my educated guess is that most guys of any advanced age beyond 21 probably only THINK they want "barely legal" girls in their rotation.

By using the word "rotation" above, I'm telegraphing the raw fact that I'm too squeamish to think that any older guy out there is seriously talking about making a teenager his steady girlfriend.

In fact, here it is: I really think that the vast majority of guys who think they want to date teenage girls are in that frame because they can't get them.

Simply put, the fantasy is clearly better than the reality.

Beyond the matter of social restrictions and maturity level, there are yet two other factors that are arguably even more significant.

First, if you are at all interested in any kind of long-term relationship with a woman, dealing with a teenager is the proverbial "box of chocolates".

How many teenage couples do you know who have broken up by age...oh...21, because the "grew apart". With real-life experience comes real change in priorities and even personality itself.

Further, how do you know your 19-year-old girlfriend is going to look great at 30?

You don't.

Recently I was interviewed for an upcoming product for older guys on how to date younger women. The guys producing it are well-known, but I hadn't yet had the chance to meet them when they approached me.

Suffice it to say they got a unique perspective.

Ultimately, I'd much rather find a woman closer to my own age who still gets carded. That way, you get the hot, sexy little vixen of your dreams...all with the added benefits of social commonality, emotional maturity (we hope) and the blessed assurance that this woman will most likely continue to age well.

Apart from online dating, where everyone's stats are pinned to their respective profiles, the main challenge to me always boiled down to actually identifying the kind of women I'm talking about.

After all, we don't walk around with a cartoon bubble full of stats over our heads in real life.

But my very real, "field-tested" premise is that there are women around us wherever we go that look and seem far, far younger than their age.

Humorously, most such women I've met report that they get hit on mostly by guys many years their junior, who are shocked to find out their real age. Meanwhile, these same women are flat-out craving to be approached by guys their own age, who are largely assuming they are "too young".

The ironies abound, don't they?

So what of this?

You've just got to have the guts to meet them and find out, that's what. The problem is that "approaching" equals "pickup" to virtually every guy out there.

Meanwhile, if I'm friendly and start an unloaded conversation with even the fresh-faced girl behind the check out counter at the grocery store, I may find out she's actually 28. But this will only happen if I can get outside my own head, drop the "agendas" and stop seeing every single interaction with any woman as "pickup".

Oh yeah, I mentioned there were two other important factors, didn't I?

How's this...how do you really know your "18 year old" is 18? If it takes the potential of handcuffs and iron bars to make the point, so be it. You don't want to be the guy who finds out his new girlfriend is only 16 or 17 after the law says it's too late.

By the way, don't count on meeting her parents as proof of age. A shocking number of them are more than happy to help her "protect" you from the truth.

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Wednesday

Traits Of A Good Man-what Every Woman Must Know

Whenever you meet someone you like, you should see the traits of a good man, so that you can rapidly identify them, and not squander time on the incorrect person.

The first thing that you ought to search for is integrity and character. These are qualities that are necessary in a lifelong partner.

Traits of a good man will let you know what he stands for, the morals he lives by, plus the morals that form his actions. This determines how he treats you and the way he treats himself. His personality is vital, yet don't confuse his personality with his character. His personality is the way he presents himself to the world, the way in which he expresses himself on the outer surface. His character is what he is on the inside, his substance.

In order to understand how to recognize traits of a good man, you must get to know him and had honest conversations with him, and this is included with time.

If you find a person who is fully commited to growing in addition to improving himself as an individual, and that wants to discover everything he can concerning being a greater individual, rest assured that this is a decent man.

If he's approachable emotionally and honest with his feelings and he expresses those emotions to you, you are likely to think that the door to his heart is open.

Is he mature and responsible? This means that he has grown up and doesn't act similar to a child, and he does not require you to look after him. Being trustworthy means he does what he says he will do. He keeps his promises and shows up on time.

Does he possess a confident approach toward life? Does he notice good on the earth, in you, plus himself? He ought to make you feel good when you're with him. Keep away from the man who's a unenthusiastic person that is always cranky. Such a human being will drain all your power and bring you down.

Does he have a superior self-esteem? Does he feel good about who he is and how he lives his life, and does he take care of himself? A person can only be in love with you if he loves himself. He also does not permit others to mistreat him or you.

Does he have integrity? Is it possible to count on him to be straight with you at all times? Is he honest with himself and you? Honesty and integrity are crucial for a long term relationship to survive. You want to admire the way he treats other people.

In order for you to acknowledge the traits of a good man, you need to have these similar qualities. One must always care for a man not just for external appearance but for who he is on the inside as well.

By: Jos Mahan

Tuesday

The Significant Age Difference: An Issue with Family

Although it may not be a problem for you and your mature partner, the age difference, it is an issue for some of those who are on the outside looking in at your relationship. They may not take you or he seriously just because you are younger than he is. If he has a past pattern of dating women close to his age, then his siblings will have found more in common with that person than with you.

It can be troubling knowing his family have had a better relationship with his past girlfriends than you; however, don't let that disturb your inner peace with who you are -- if age is indeed nothing but a number then by all means keep it that way!

Jealousy, lies, confusion, bitterness, and more are in every family and his is no exception. Since you have come into his life, there may have been some hidden family issues that have now surfaced. He may have seen a different side to his once kind mother, his wonderful sister, and his easy-going brother. They may have criticized his choice in a woman either to his face or behind his back, "Why did you pick someone so young? What's going on with him, did he catch a bad case of midlife?" Whatever the comments he has had to endure since dating you, he will have to be the one to either stand with you or cave into the pressure and end the relationship -- its all up to him.

What you can do is stay true to who you are and your beliefs. If you and he believe in the relationship, then it will last, but if only one or neither of you don't, it won't.

Keep in mind that at first everyone who says, "I don't have a problem with..." In time the truth comes out and they really do have a problem. Their issue, not yours!

Enjoy your relationship while it last! Ask questions to find out the truth about his feelings before you commit. Finally, know that everyone will not like you and there is nothing in the rule book that requires you to make friends and influence people who don't like you!

Nicholl McGuire
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Friday

How to Go About Dating Older Men

Are you an older man? If yes, you might think that it is too late to find love in your life. However, nothing can be further from the truth. Older men are recapturing love in a dramatic way and going forward with their lives with joy and happiness. Love is sometimes classified as a thing for only those who are young. But the beauty of love is that, it does not discriminate and it does not matter who you are; it can come to you. Dating for older men is something that is on the rise and this is mainly attributed to the many options of dating that have come up. Today, it is much easier to meet new people making dating for older men even more popular. Perhaps you are sitting there and wondering how old an older man is. Well, age is in the mind and you are the only one who can limit yourself. People who are over the age of 55 are considered to be older men. When there are men of this age who are single, they might have gone through divorce or their partners have departed. They could also be separated.

This is to say that dating for older men happens because circumstances or situations have left them without love. In society dating for older men should be encouraged. This is because there are men who are potential lovers who find themselves lonely and many times bogged down by depression. The older man in society needs to know and feel like he is part of society and that he has a lot to offer. After you have thought about returning to the love chase as an older man, it is time to put your best foot forward and go for it. First, you need to work on the issues that you might have. Common issues that men your age deal with is looking down on themselves and feeling like you are not attractive enough. There are practical things that you can do to make sure that you are on the top of your game. Look for good ways to get in shape. You can walk or run and see how you will gain the confidence you might have lost. Look for more modern styles in clothes and see the difference.
 
Dating for older men is never perfect. You cannot be perfect and therefore, you do not have to wait until you develop a six pack to get out there. Remember, women are attracted to a man who can really reflect beauty and charm from the inside. It is time to hit social places. Chat up ladies who you are attracted to. If you find it hard to meet people, you can go through matchmakers. Online dating will give you a perfect shot to find a lady with the specifications you are looking for. When you get dating again, keep your mind open. You will be surprised at how both young and old women show interest in you. Remember, romance keeps the world moving and it is a fine way of adding yourself some years on this earth. Make sure you have fun all the way until you find someone special.
 
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