A age gap dating advice blog that provides valuable tips when dating older men and younger women. Thought-provoking relationship tips for older men seeking to date younger women. Please be advised to seek a professional for serious issues. Contributors are not all licensed or trained in relationship counseling. This blog is not for people under the age of 18.
Older Men Looking for Younger Women - Dating for Wants not Needs
A single, older man who seeks selfish gain has an agenda before he even starts dating someone new. The kind of plan with the objective to meet his wants and not always his needs. Most often what or who is most important to him (that person, place or thing) is already managed as far as he is concerned. But those wants of the older guy are very tempting to him, temporarily satisfying, and at times worth the risks that come with them at least so he thinks.
When older men seek younger women, what do you think is going on in some of their minds? Consider things like: companionship, attention, adoration, sex, travel buddy, an assistant or some other want. These are their benefits they often receive depending on their selection of women (most lovers give very little while expecting much in return). These mature men have already had their share of life disappointments and so now they seek after what they feel is essential to their well-being and present lifestyles, yet sometimes their wants outweigh common sense. Ponder on the following.
Unchecked health issues dominate a man's mind; therefore he looks to others to treat his ills by distracting him with entertainment; rather than making a doctor's appointment or sitting down with a psychologist or a person of faith.
Poor choices in past or current mates rob him of inner peace, joy, money, relationship with children, etc. instead of blaming himself, he shifts blame, makes excuses, or hopes his personal issues will just go away or one day get better without doing anything or very little to make personal changes.
His desire to achieve becomes more significant than quality relationship building. Instead of building people up (family, friends...) as he moves up the ladder of success, he fault-finds, insults, and bad mouths. A Creator is unimportant, spirituality has no impact, and he feels a void despite all of the material wealth and business acquaintances he has gained.
These are just a few of the many things that motivate an older man to find a bit of pleasure in a young woman. He runs away from the things that bother him while he expects/demands/controls his fountain of youth. In time, his younger partner doesn't look as appealing to him due to aging, childbirth, stress, etc. So he isn't very kind or caring while his eyes wonder elsewhere.
Without quality friends around these troubled older men to shake them back into reality and out of their personal fantasies, they will continue to go after gullible young women who ultimately give them nothing more than a headache and empty bank account over time.
The compatibility they eventually realize simply isn't there as they mature along in years. Unfortunately, many of these disgruntled older men take out their negative emotions on those closest to them. Meanwhile the young ladies come to the realization that the aging process in their older partners is more than they can handle. They either fight back, ignore, or move on to nicer guys whether young or old. As far the older men who see they are no longer charming in the eyes of their companions, they reason, "It's not me, it's them..."out with the old and in with the new. This cycle may repeat with the miserable,stubborn, bitter, and angry older men over and over again until their dying days.
As much as some of us enjoy connecting with older or younger, we all need to understand that there are needs and wants in these matches, engagements and marriages and if one is unwilling to meet a person's desires, besides one's own, on both an emotional and physical level (no matter the age) there will be trouble!