It is so sad that there are men in this world who have been given such relationship advice when it comes to dating younger women. They believe that if they can get young women (or any woman) to "go along just to get along" the relationship will work out in their favor. Keep in mind the plan doesn't include having to give up anything that makes him a little bit uncomfortable or inconvenienced for a short or long period of time. Maybe the older man is a father of small children and needs someone to babysit them so that he can have some personal time since the mother is no longer around, women his own age may not be interested in the role, but a young woman just might. Although he may tell the younger woman, "I don't need you to raise my children, I just need a companion," if she is wise, she knows better. How are you going to be in a serious relationship with any man who frequently has his children around him and you have zero influence on them unless you never interact with them? The intention of the man is not to keep his new woman out of the loop, if anything, he is looking for a help mate or dare I say it, for the player type, someone he can take advantage of!
Now some women, whether young or old, fall for the niceties that mask one's true intent; however, others know better. The manipulative older man is not going to get a young, wise woman to go along with anything without her questioning everything! This is one of the main reason why some stubborn, settled older men will never get along with the independent, career minded younger women of today. She isn't going to accept a simple yes or no answer from an older man when the question asked requires a full explanation. She is going to be curious about public affiliations as well as private interests. The wise, young woman has a "head on her shoulders" which makes her not trainable. The manipulative older man should save some time and energy-- just move on!
Like young women who don't have much in life to start, the older man doesn't have much life left, so he is going to make the most of it! "What can this young woman do for me?" He thinks. "How can I get her to see things my way?" The older man doesn't think he needs to do much compromising with the immature and youthful, because in his mind, he feels he has already paid many dues in life and besides he has been there and done that.
The older man has experienced long term relationships in the past, he knows what he has to give up. He has heard the complaints and concerns from his previous sexual conquests. So with a young woman (also known as a fresh piece of meat in the eyes of some lustful men,) he believes he can convince her that he isn't that person he used to be. For some men, they do change, but not without sacrifice. Some have lost finances, partners, children, homes and more to be that nice, humbled guy standing before you. However, others will never change no matter what happens to them, if anything, things just might get worse for them and those who they choose to partner up with! Would you want to be that young woman who comes into his life unsuspecting that he has a plan to train you, so that he can benefit in the short or long term?
Sometimes we have to put ourselves in other people's shoes when we come up with plans to try to make people do what we want. That young woman is someone's daughter and that older man is oftentimes someone's father or even grandfather. How would you feel if you were either or and along comes someone with a hidden agenda in your life?
Author of She's Crazy